Why you don’t “call out” other people when they say something offensive

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The offender is an authority figure to you

You really like and admire the offender

You really need something from the offender

You want to have or already have a romantic relationship with the offender

You are in public and don’t want to embarrass the offender

You are at a festive occasion (wedding, Thanksgiving dinner, etc.) and don’t want to bring negative vibes

You were never taught to assert yourself

You asserted yourself in childhood and were severely punished for it

You asserted yourself in childhood and no one paid attention

You called out the person before and got severely rebuked

You called out the person before and were laughed at

You called out the person before and were ignored

You called out the person before, he/she seemed to accept it, and later kept on offending

You don’t think it’s a big deal

You don’t think the offense is offensive

It’s not your job to educate people